Make The Right Heart Connection

Search me [thoroughly], O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there is any wicked or hurtful way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. -Psalm 139:23-24

Is your heart connecting with the Word of God?  Let us continue to pursue righteousness.  How we really feel about a person will be revealed through our communication and actions.  Our words reveal character.  The Lord tests hearts and minds.  Don’t take it upon yourself to scheme and plan to get even when someone hurts you.  The Lord can handle that person.  Give that person to the Lord in prayer.  Continue to walk in integrity, and be a blessing to the Lord and His Kingdom.  Mirror Christ.

Psalm 7:9; Matthew 12:34; Romans 12:19-21

Are You Connected?

For because of Him the whole body (the church, in all its various parts), closely joined and firmly knit together by the joints and ligaments with which it is supplied, when each part [with power adapted to its need] is working properly [in all its functions], grows to full maturity, building itself up in love. – Ephesians 4:16

The Body of Christ:

Formed (God formed us by His hands)

Filled (God breathed life into us)

Function (Every part of the body has to function)

Everything in the body has a function.  Function from the unction of the Holy Spirit.  You can’t function until you’re filled.  You can’t be out of service.  We are to serve with purpose.  Learn to be connected.  God is stretching us to be connected.  We are fitly joined together.  If you break the connection, you lose the supply.  Keep the connection God brings in your life.

About Discipline

The word “discipline” as stated in The World Book Dictionary means training, especially training of the mind or character; the training effect of experience; a trained condition of order and obedience; a particular system of rules for conduct; punishment; chastisement.  Disciplining children at an early age plays an important part in their personal growth and maturity.  Although there have been some cases where discipline has been taken to the extreme and filtered over into areas of physical and verbal abuse, when properly administered with patience, love and understanding, the results from disciplining children at an early age can be very rewarding.

Disciplining children at an early age in love gives them a sense of security.  When children can see that their well being is taken into consideration, this helps them feel that they are loved and that they belong.  When this is absent in their life, they will look elsewhere to fill that void.  In some cases, this may include prostitution, gang involvement, and unhealthy relationships.

Disciplining children at an early age also teaches them to recognize authority and to respect it.  When there is no respect for authority in the home, children may also find it hard to give respect to others in society who have been given a position of authority, such as teachers, policemen, and even supervisors.  Children are known by their deeds, whether good or bad.  Disciplining children will also teach them the consequences of not obeying those in authority.  By helping them to learn this at an early age, they will better understand the structure of society.  In other words, how we relate to others will have a ripple effect on society, whether positive or negative.

Disciplining children at an early age also equips them to take the discipline they were taught in their childhood to the next generation.  In other words, what you know — you teach.  Because children are influenced at an early age by what they see and hear, it is important to be mindful of the impact you have on their lives.  In some cases, where positive discipline is not found in the home, it will be better to have an outside positive role model, such as a pastor, close friend, or another family member to be a mentor to the children.

Disciplining children at an early age has its rewards.  Even though at times there may be tears and discomfort involved in the disciplining process, it is well worth the time, effort, and labor of love you give to see them mature.

Ten Habits That Are Helpful in Keeping Marriages Strong

  1. Don’t Try To Change Each Other
    Happy couples know their partner’s differences, and have somewhat stopped trying to change the other person.  Instead of trying to fight your partner’s personality style, focus on each other’s strengths.
  2. Frame Your Demands as Favors
    Your partner will be more likely to change their behavior if they feel they will get relationship brownie points.  Present it like ‘here is what I need to make me happy.’
  3. Vocalize Your Appreciation
    Give your partner positive reinforcement at least three times a day, being specific.
  4. Focus On the Positive
    If you look at what your partner is doing that’s right, it’s easier to find what you’re looking for.  It’s a choice to flip your mindset.
  5. Take Trips Down Memory Lane
    Reliving memories verbally to your partner changes your mindset, and how you view them and think about your relationship.  Focus on the happy times.
  6. Never Side With the Enemy
    Support your partner when they need to vent.  Don’t try to fix the problem, but instead be a listening ear.  Never take the side of the person they are venting about.
  7. Don’t Get Too Comfortable
    Relationships can be fragile.  Happy couples continue to date, complement each other, and have fun together.
  8. Have Rituals of Connection
    Happy couples seem to do a lot of mundane things together.  They have their own little habits they decide to do together.
  9. Know Your Partner’s Calls for Attention
    Understand those little verbal hints your partner makes for attention, and respond to their need to connect.  Do something special to show your care.
  10. Keep Doing the Little Things
    What matters are all the small things that add up, such as noticing when your partner needs a hug, or making their favorite meal for no special reason.

~ Remember, marriage is about trust, commitment, and knowing each other.