Some of you may stifle your emotions just to keep moving through life. But you need to find your freedom in expressing the hurt and pain you are feeling on the inside. You can only receive the freedom and healing you need in the presence of the Lord Jesus Christ. It’s a process. He will walk you through it. It’s only through Him you can be made whole again. He is the only one that can restore what is broken. Your past does not have to define your future. You can start again. Your brokenness does not have to define you. God wants to give you “new eyes” to see yourself as He does. A personal relationship with Jesus Christ will help you to discover who He is, and who you are in Him. You have already been loved, accepted, affirmed, and forgiven by God. He’s already done that for you. And He continues to do those things daily. He sees you, and He loves and wants you anyway. Now you have to learn to love, accept, affirm, and forgive yourself. With “new eyes” you can do it. It’s a process. Remember, you’re not alone. He’s taking you through the process, and walking with you every step of the way.
What did you do to deserve your blessings? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Don’t be confused! It wasn’t the school you graduated from. It wasn’t your social media connections. It wasn’t your job. It wasn’t your neighborhood. It wasn’t the hook-up with your Pastor and his friends. It wasn’t the car you drive. It wasn’t the suit you wore on your job interview. It wasn’t because you prayed for an hour today. It wasn’t because of your business. It wasn’t because of your inner circle. It’s not even because you witnessed to someone today. It’s only God’s Grace! That’s it!
What word describes God to you? Father is how He wants us to think of Him. For some of us the word father is endearing. We have precious memories of our earthly father. For others, the word father leaves a nasty taste in their mouth. For them the memory of their father is one thing they try so desperately to forget.
For them, they always felt they could never measure up to their father’s approval. They were always trying to get his attention … Always searching for his affirmation … Always feeling rejected. Some people never knew their father, so they had no relationship with him.
If God posted a Want Ad, it would probably read something like this: “I’m looking for people who are feeling inadequate, mediocre, struggle with low self-esteem, feeling rejected, confused about who they really are, abused emotionally, abused physically, pushed aside from society, misunderstood, feeling they don’t have a voice, struggle with depression, struggle with abandonment, struggle with resentment and anger, struggle with trusting people, etc.”
For many of us, this is exactly how we came to God. We were torn, jacked up, tired and at the end of our rope. And because our relationship with our earthly father was jacked up, we took a long time to come to God. We were unsure if we could trust Him. We didn’t really believe God could truly love us just as we were. We found it hard to believe that God would accept us just as we were. We were so use to putting on the mask for other people to fit in, we felt that if God really saw the real person, He would reject us too. So we went through life thinking we had to get ourselves together first, and then we would be ready and fit to come to God. We thought we had to earn His love. And this is the lie that we passed on to the next generation, our children.
The love of God is unconditional. No matter what we do … He loves us. No matter how many times we mess up … He loves us. He adopted us. We may not measure up to the standards of society … but God loves us. In the midst of our pain, He will be our Savior, Healer, and Redeemer. He wanted us so much that He was willing to pay the price for us on Calvary.
Romans 8:15, Gal. 4:1-7, Eph. 1:5, Psalm 51:17, Matt. 11:28-30
In the Old Testament, every covenant had to be sealed with blood. In the Old Testament, an animal was the sacrifice that was killed and split in half, and it’s blood was shed to seal the covenant. The animal took our place, and we lived. But when we break covenant, we take the animal’s place, because covenant has been broken and now we must die. When we are in covenant with God, we have relationship with God. Breaking covenant means that we no longer have relationship with God, and separation from God is death. And that was what Christ experienced on the cross. Christ took upon Himself the sins of the world as the Lamb of God, and experienced death. It should have been us on the cross that died instead of Christ. If you reject Christ, you accept death. When we accept Christ, we accept life and life more abundantly. Covenant begins with death. And breaking covenant results in death. Examples could be the death of a marriage, the death of a business, the death of a friendship, or the death of a relationship. Since Jesus overcame death by His resurrection, then Jesus is the resurrection to any death cause by breaking covenant.
I had an interesting conversation the other night with a friend of mine. She was really discouraged and disappointed because she felt she wasn’t getting the help she needed to follow through with her dreams and purpose. She said she knew the Lord had given her a gift, but she questioned why it was taking so long for the door of opportunity to open. What really bothered her was why she wasn’t getting help from her brothers and sisters in Christ … those she is joined to. I could hear the hurt in her voice, so I listened to her for as long as she needed to talk. Before our conversation was over, I encouraged her with whatever the Lord laid on my heart to share, along with helping.
When I got off the phone, I was brought to tears just thinking about everything she said. I was really grieved in my spirit. And I thought to myself, “Lord, how can this be?”
And this is what I heard in my spirit:
There are many reasons Christians may not help each other. But some have picked up the mindset of the world and not even know it. The mindset of the world has crept its way into the Body of Christ in so many subtle ways, and can be manifested as follows:
Competition. Jealousy. Lip service. Me, myself, and I way of thinking. I got mine, so you’re on your own for getting yours. Why should I help you? What have you done for me lately? You have helpful information, but won’t share it. You have connections that could be helpful, but won’t share them. You see another brother or sister in Christ as an enemy because they have the same gifting as you do. You feel threatened by another person’s gifts. You’re afraid people will start following someone else. You’re afraid the spotlight will be taken off of you. You want to help, but are afraid of what other people will think or say. This person is not in your clique. Why should I help you? I got my own issues.
The scripture says “what’s done in darkness shall come to light.” And I’m sure any one of us could be found guilty of such a mindset and manifesting it in our actions whether knowingly or not.
My prayer is that we all take the time for a real heart search, and that we be mindful we are all fitly joined together, every joint supplying. Lord forgive us for at times being conformed to the world’s thinking, instead of being transformed by the renewing of our minds.
Gal. 5:19-21; Prov. 3:27-28; Philipp. 2:3-4; Mark 4:22; Eph. 4:15-16; Eph. 4:23-24